Embracing the challenges & blessings of a blended & bicultural Samoan family

before & after (part 1)

Feb 2008, Washington State

Our journey to marriage

As promised…the FFPMaMMa & her man…how they met & how he popped the question. The events that led up to this picture:

MM and I first saw each other at a singles group at a church I had previously attended and still had many friends there.  We didn’t meet, but I remember seeing him, and according to him, he remembered me too.  We officially met for the first time at a friends home in July 2005.  A mutual friend would have people over to her home on a weekly basis for dinner.  I was not part of the group, however it was usually the norm for people to bring a guest…that was me!

That night we found out that we were both going to be participating in a small group together during the fall.  A group that covered finances from a biblical perspective.I knew two people in this group, and no one else.  Today I am blessed to call these people very close friends. It was perfect timing for me to be involved in a group again as I had been in a place of taking a break from being involved with people….too many people.  Have you ever been in that place?  Relationships being life-draining?  Oh my… I was empty!  So this timing was perfect.

MM became a good friend.  He worked for a local trash company as a driver so he had VERY EARLY mornings.  I would get up and work out in the mornings, but being so tired, he told me to call him on my way to the gym so that I would be prepped and hyped to work out.  While this was not a daily routine, it was quite often.  We established a friendship from there.  Christmas 2005 I began to notice a change in our conversations.  I began to be a bit more vulnerable in topics and that “tug” on the heart began to start feeling again (notice I said again… twice before I thought I had met “my man”…thank GOD I was WRONG!).

Christmas Eve I invited some friends to my parents home for dessert.  MM happened to be one of these people (which was not unusual…there were a few other guys there).  As I said good-bye he gave me a hug (again…not unusual!).  My friend happened to be watching and she asked me “what’s up with that…that was a H.U.G!”.

“huh?….what are you talking about”

“hmmmm….that was more than just a friend hug”

“whatever!”

Oh dang! The seed was planted… was it more than a “friend” hug? DOH!

What I had already decided I would do differently (should I meet someone again) this round… let the man lead.  I’ve never been good at that (at least I hadn’t been in the past).

I didn’t have to wait long…and neither will you

stay tuned for part deux!

25 Comments
  1. I feel almost like you and I were just meant to be friends. I was intrigued that our blog titles were so similar in meaning. Then I come here and you are rockin' the same Blogger design I was using prior to moving to WordPress so I had a deja vu thing. THEN I am reading your story about meeting your husband and while there are some differences, there are a lot of similarities. CA-RAZY. Hello, new BFF! ;) Following your blog now and about to click over & find you on Twitter. Have a blessed day!

  2. This is so well told! Making me smile. Except for having to wait for part 2! :)

  3. Can't wait for part 2! :)

  4. Please tell me you've written part 2?!

  5. I love it when life brings us just what we need when we’re ready for it! Happy SITS day!
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  6. It seems to be true…love finds us when we least expect it! Happy SITS Day!
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  7. Oooh, this is getting juicy. I love that he gave you more than a friend hug.

    Why that sneaky devil.

    Ok – headed over to the next one!
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    • ha! I’m sure you have already figured out that the story is quite lengthy. I hope you have the opportunity to read through them when you can snuggle down with a hot cup of coffee..or tea…or wine. I completely loved writing it. Thank you for stopping by Kiran.

  8. Ahhh good start, but need more. ;) ))
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    • Oh…there is SO MUCH MORE to that story. It is rather long, so you better have a snack to keep you going. Part 3 is where the culture comes into play, but is also quite sad. The entire story is a tribute to my amazing husband.

  9. Oh what a great start to story! Can’t wait to read part 2….
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    • It is a L…O…N….G story, but my way of saying thank you to MM with how he approached our entire relationship. It really is a tribute to him.

  10. Wow! You are an intriguing writing. I want to read on…
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  11. Great post! O like reading how couples met! Can’t wait to read more.
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    • I hope you enjoy the rest of the story. I wont hide the fact that it is LONG… intended to be read in small doses. I think the story just gets better…but then again, I am biased! Appreciate you coming by.

  12. It’s funny how something blossoms when you least expect it. I think it’s great that you were friends first.

    My husband loves telling the story of how we met- at a mutual friends BBQ…he was intrigued with how much I ate! It was cute when I was really skinny…story isnt so cute anymore!! LOL. At the time- I wasnt looking for anyone either…must have been why I was so comfortable eating like that!!!
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  13. Stopping by from SITS.
    I love your love story. :) I met my husband when he was 12, and I was 13! He was actually my brother’s friend, and I thought he was a deaf-mute because he NEVER spoke, at least not in my presence. He only started to be friends with me when we were in our 20s!
    I like the fact that you’re telling the story in tibdits. That’s how I’d do it, too, if I ever did tell the story of how my hubby and I met and fell in love.

    Happy SITS Day!
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  14. This is such a sweet love story! I love hearing about how other couples met…

    I met my husband on the street while I was on vacation and was completely in love with him by the end of the day. He proposed to me three days later. True story.

    Happy SITS day!
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  15. This warms my heart – God first, friends second, love third! I can’t wait to read Part 2! :-)
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